When you start to see the tactics and pull away from the relationship, begin to leave, or actually leave, get ready for some new tactics toward your children shared with this person to escalate.
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This episode has a trigger warning. We are discussing sensitive topics including childhood sexual abuse.
If you're experiencing sexual coercion in your relationship, and feel pressure, followed by poor treatment if you don't engage sexually with your partner, this episode is for you.
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A common abuse tactic that is very difficult to spot is a partner who is continuing to behave abusively trying to force you to move past it and let it go. His sense of entitlement to unearned forgiveness can leave you feeling extremely frustrated and wondering why you can't just 'forgive'. Learn why this is not possible in this episode.
The episode on why therapy is not recommended in abusive relationships:
Why Therapy Doesn't Work in Abusive Relationship
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In this episode learn why too much empathy can keep us stuck in situations that are toxic for us, and how to start balancing empathy with boundaries and logic.
Ways to work with me:
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This is the ETC process taught week by week as a guided experience. Includes a Facebook group, community support, and group coaching/ Q & A call at the end of the program. Register to save your spot here. *January was mentioned in this episode, however, it has been postponed until February
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*Note: I have changed the ETC intensive to start on February 6th but mentioned January on the podcast.
Most women in a relationship experiencing narcissistic abuse can attest to feeling confused by their partner's sometimes wonderful behavior. Because they can sometimes do nice things and behave with acts of love, women stay in self-doubt about whether the relationship really is abusive, or if it's just something wrong with them.
Tune in to learn why the nice/mean behavior is the hallmark of abuse, and rest assured, your confusion is a normal response to these unpredictable behaviors.
Are you doing more work to get your partner to change than he's doing to change? This includes emotional work, ruminating, thinking about the relationship, worrying about the relationship, trying to find help and resources, sending your partner links and blogs to read when he is doing nothing to take leadership on his own.
It won't work.
In order to truly change we have to want to change who we are and be 100% committed to the process to make those changes happen.
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In this episode, Leanne covers 12 ways to know if you're with a covert abuser who likes to be known as a "good guy".
If you find yourself often feeling badly around your partner, yet everyone else thinks he's so wonderful, this episode is for you!
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In this episode, we're talking about 5 phrases you may hear often from your narcissistic partner, and not realize is a form of gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a pattern of emotionally abusive behavior that is primarily seen in pathological personality disorders like high narcissism and NPD. It is a pattern of behavior, not one-off misunderstandings or genuine incidents of forgetfulness.
Join me for another 'walk with me' episode and learn why being too much in your feminine, empathic, emotional energy is keeping you stuck in a toxic dynamic, and what you need to do to balance your 'feeling' side with your logical, decisive side to change your relationship dance. We all need a healthy level of narcissism to be successful in life, and most women in narcissistic relationships fall on the extreme low- end of the spectrum with something Craig Maklin calls "echoism". So, maybe you need to be more narcissistic!
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This is a walking unedited episode where I'm speaking to you from flow as I walk in nature with my dogs. This message is for the woman who is DONE with her current way of being and is ready for real change.
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This is something I hear about often from women I work with, that their partner is in therapy and comes home to share things the therapist said in order to cause triangulation.
Beware of this maneuver, and when he says "my therapist said YOU sound like a narcissist!"
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After an argument or conflict, your partner is able to move on and forget about it while you are stuck stewing and seething over the whole thing. Then you are told you need to 'get over it' by your partner, and yet, you can't seem to just let it go. Why is this?
Press play on this episode for why this happens and what needs to happen to truly move past conflicts or emotionally hurtful or abusive incidents.
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If I could speak in front of all the women in the world who are living in narcissistic abuse dynamics, this is what I would tell them NOT to do.
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Lets talk again about sex as it pertains to abuse and violation of women's rights to say no without coercion, pressure and emotional manipulation. This subject is not discussed enough in this space, and I want to address this prevalent issue so that women can start setting boundaries around their bodies and sexuality.
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In this episode, I'm interviewing a woman who joined ETC last year to share her story with you on how her leading the change made her husband face what he needed to change in order to win her back into the relationship AFTER they were already separated.
*The name of the treatments mentioned in this interview were edited out because I am not affiliated or familiar with them, and do not endorse programs or treatments I can not personally recommend. You will notice a place where there is a gap in the interview, and this is why.
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In this episode, we're talking about the fog that can set in when things feel 'normal' and why this often doesn't mean change is happening.
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In this episode, I'm having you take an honest look at where you are in your relationship. To begin changing our lives we have to get honest with ourselves first. We can't move forward unless we know where we are and where we want to get to.
Then, we need to figure out what needs to happen to bridge that gap from where you are to where you want to be in your life and relationship.
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In this episode, I'm inviting you to look at how you've been allowing your needs to become nonexistent as you become more and more invisible in your relationship.
Part of the Relationship Reset we do inside of ETC is bringing more of YOU and what you want into the relationship.
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If you're going to therapy to work on yourself, or to resolve issues in your relationship, remember that someone who is no further along than you are will be able to be of much help.
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Your kids aren't OK living in the midst of constant chaos, conflict, discord and unhappiness. Your relationship dynamic with your partner is creating a toxic home environment for your children and in this episode I want to call you to action to lead your children out of the toxic energy they are forced to live in.
This is not about guilt or shame, its about seeing the truth and doing something new to change what isn't working.
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In this episode we're talking about managing and taking ownership for your energy and how you're showing up in your life in all areas. You can't do a whole lot from a place of exhaustion, depletion and burnout, so let's talk about this.
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After you've worked on the first 3 pillars, it's time to formulate your non-negotiables and understand the process for change that your partner must go through in order to truly change. During this phase i's a good idea to start building your solid exit plan and start planning for this, just in case he doesn't make the necessary changes you have identified you need in order to remain in the relationship.